Sometimes, it’s difficult to know whether our relationships are healthy and nurturing or not. Below are some questions to consider when deciding if you are in a healthy relationship.

  • How are you and your life different from before becoming involved with this person?
  • Is your life positively or negatively affected by this person?
  • How are decisions made in the relationship?
  • How do disagreements get resolved, if they do?
  • What are the good times like and how often do they happen?
  • If this is a romantic relationship, what kinds of things do you and your partner do separately
  • How does your partner feel when you do things without them?
  • Do you have contact with friends/ family/ other support systems?
  • How does your partner feel about that?
  • Have you ever felt afraid of this person’s ability to hurt you?
  • Has this person ever touched you in ways that made you feel uncomfortable or hurt you?
  • Has there been physical violence by this person?
  • Is there any name- calling, put- downs, yelling/ screaming?
  • Has your partner/ this person ever touched you without your consent in a sexual way that was uncomfortable?
  • Has your partner ever withheld or forced sex as punishment?
  • Have they ever manipulated or forced you into having sex when you didn’t want to?
  • If you share money in any way, whose choice was that?
  • Who manages and makes decisions about money?
  • Is there anything  the children heard or saw that you really wish they hadn’t?
  • Who makes decisions about the children?
  • Are children ever used as weapons?
  • Are children around during fights? Have they ever been hurt?