Abusive partners in LGBTQ relationships use all the same tactics to gain power and control as abusive partners in heterosexual relationships — physical, sexual or emotional abuse, financial control, isolation and more.

  • Abusive partners in LGBTQ relationships also reinforce their tactics that maintain power and control with societal factors that compound the complexity a survivor faces in leaving or getting safe in an LGBTQ relationship.
  • There is never “mutual battering” in a LGBTQ relationship.
  • There is always an imbalance of power in an abusive relationship. One person makes the decisions and has control over the relationship and the other partner.
  • The threat of “outing” a person is a method of emotional and psychological abuse, and/or a tactic to keep the person silent about other abuse.
  • There is a perception that it is easier to leave a LGBTQ relationship, but in reality it is no less complicated than leaving a heterosexual relationship.


  • One out of four to one out of three LGBTQ relationships has experienced domestic violence.
  • Sexual orientation bias represents the third highest category of reported hate crimes.
  • Nearly one-third of 8, 584 middle and high school students, “skipped school at least one day the past month because of safety concerns.”
  • At least one transgender person per month across the USA is killed in a hate crime